Talking It Through

If you’re thinking about having fertility treatment and using an egg, sperm or embryo donor to create your family then it’s likely that you, your partner and those close to you will be experiencing a range of complicated emotions. It’s possible that your feelings are different from each other and that your thoughts change over time. This is all completely normal.

Talking through the implications of using a donor in your fertility treatment is a beneficial way to explore these issues and of getting them out into the open. Depending on your circumstances, you might want to do this individually, as a couple or even as a group. It’s also a useful way of considering how any child born from your treatment might feel about being donor conceived and how you will talk about their genetic heritage with them.

Finding a counsellor

  • Fertility clinics do have counsellors available to their patients.
  • You might also consider finding a counsellor through the British Infertility Counselling Association (BICA).
  • Donor Conception Network provides an extensive support network to those considering undergoing donor conception procedures and to those who already have families conceived with donated sperm, eggs and embryos.